Retelling Isn’t Healing: Why Choice Matters More Than Your Story.
Healing begins where the story ends.
“I am not what happened to me. I am what I choose to become.” – Carl Jung
Trauma and the Power of Choice
“Trauma” has become a buzzword. These days, it gets tossed around so often it’s almost lost its meaning. Yes—every one of us has faced painful, even traumatic experiences. But what keeps those experiences alive long after the moment has passed is not the event itself—it’s the emotional charge we attach to it.
Carl Jung said it best: we are not what happened to us. Life happens. Tragedies happen. What defines us is not the event, but the choice we make in response.
👉 Choice is more powerful than story.
The Trap of Retelling
Our culture profits off pain. Pharmaceutical companies push quick fixes that numb symptoms. Therapies—both mainstream and alternative—often promise transformation through talking alone.
But here’s the truth: talking isn’t healing.
I’ve seen countless clients relive their trauma on repeat—telling the same story to one therapist after another, clinging to it as identity, wearing it as a badge of honor. They’re told to “let go” and “move on,” yet the very process meant to help them—rehashing the story—keeps them stuck inside it.
👉 Retelling the wound only reopens it.
My Story of Getting Stuck
I know this cycle well.
In 1998, my family lost everything in a house fire. In 2013, illness forced me to walk away from a nursing career I had built with pride. Both became the stories I carried. And I told those stories again and again—so often they became the lens through which I saw every new experience.
The fire became my mantra.
The illness became my excuse.
Fear, shame, and blame ran my nervous system into overdrive. I developed gut issues, severe anxiety, and eventually a body that broke down under the weight of unprocessed stress.
Every time I told the story, I reignited the fire.
Every time I wore the illness, I deepened the wound.
The Shift: From Story to Choice
What finally helped me move forward wasn’t more retelling. It was realizing that repeating my story only kept me stuck in low vibrational frequency. Healing required me to choose differently:
Recognize the pattern.
Change my thought process.
Build a platform of gratitude.
Focus on what I actually wanted for my life—not what I feared.
When I stopped identifying with the story, I started identifying with my future.
Practical Steps to Choose Differently
Moving on isn’t about ignoring the past—it’s about choosing to write a new chapter. Here’s how you can begin shifting your energy away from retelling and into transformation:
✨ 1. Recognize the Pattern.
Notice when you’re about to retell the same story. Ask yourself: “Am I seeking healing—or am I rehearsing pain?”
✨ 2. Reframe the Story.
Shift your language. Instead of “This happened to me, and it broke me,” try:
“This happened, and it taught me resilience, compassion, and strength.”
✨ 3. Anchor in Gratitude.
Each time you catch yourself spiraling into the past, pause and name three things you’re grateful for right now. Gratitude raises your frequency and grounds you in the present.
✨ 4. Choose the Future.
Ask yourself: “Who do I want to become without this story?” Then align your daily thoughts, habits, and actions with that vision.
The Becoming
Healing doesn’t come from reliving the past. It comes when we raise our frequency, release the identity of the old story, and step into who we are choosing to become.
💡 You are not your trauma. You are your choice.
And when you choose joy, balance, and possibility—you stop surviving and start becoming.
How I Help My Clients
This is the work I do with my clients at In Balance With(IN)Sight.
Through Energy Intelligence, Energy Movement Transformation Techniques, and Physical Frequency Healing, I help people shift their energy and create new stories—ones built on joy, bliss, health, and wealth.
I specialize in energy shifting and frequency elevation to help clients return to balance with deeper insight. When you learn how to tune your frequency, you stop identifying with the old story—and start living in alignment with the life you truly desire.
Your story doesn’t define you—your choice does. The moment you decide to shift your energy, everything changes. If you’re ready, let’s begin!
Dina is a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist, Reiki and Pure Energy Healing Practitioner, retired RN, and founder of In Balance With(IN)Sight. She helps clients shift energy, raise frequency, and step into lives of joy, balance, and abundance. 🌿 If you’re ready to release old stories and create a new one, you’re invited to connect with Dina or schedule a free consultation.